Taboo topics
THE WORKPLACE is a social milieu where we network with non-family members during our adult years. However, not all our conversations are business related. Some of us even nurture personal relationships with co-workers after business hours and count them as close friends. It is only natural that friendship takes root and flourishes at the workplace.
Which is a very good thing indeed. Work becomes a drag if people were to go about their jobs like robots, sans any social interaction. But, there are some issues that just don't belong to the workplace. Controversial topics and emotional subjects are best avoided. Issues that could offend someone or that can tarnish others' perception of your professionalism are taboo. Here are some conversation aspects that are a firm no-no within the workplace:
Religion
Religion is a very personal and sensitive issue for most people. Whether you are an orthodox Hindu, a staunch Muslim, a devoted Christian or a non-believer, do be discreet about your beliefs. Religion is just not an ideal topic for discussion with your co-workers. Even the mildest of people would detest your discussion on religion. Any discussion on religious issues has the tendency to get a negative response from people, and even a seemingly casual conversation can erupt into an argument and foster serious animosity.
Politics
Your political leanings and opinions are best not aired in the workplace. Like religion, people tend to be touchy about their political preferences. Avoid getting into lengthy discussions on controversial political issues, or trying to force your colleagues to see your point of view.
Personal issues
Okay, so your co-worker is also your trusted friend; but that does not mean you can discuss your personal problems in the cubicle, lunchroom, elevator or anywhere else within the confines of the workplace. Remember that more than one pair of ears might be listening to your conversation.
I am sure you don't want your personal problems to become fodder for the office grapevine. Save the details of your personal life for family and friends outside the workplace.
Money
We are all dying to know just how rich our boss is, and how much money the co-worker in the next cubicle makes in comparison to us. But, the buck stops there. Literally. Do not ever reveal or discuss money matters.
It seems natural, so tempting to let your guard down and sneak around the topic of money, when you feel comfortable with a colleague. But, resist the temptation. It is ill mannered and downright unprofessional to probe into the financial affairs of a colleague no matter how well you get along with him.
Religion is out. Politics is contentious. Personal problems are forbidden. And money is not polite. Is there anything at all you can talk about with your colleagues?
There is. You could discuss neutral topics such as art, theatre, or hobbies and interests. Family and children are also popular topics for discussion, provided you don't go into too many intimate details.
People often enjoy sharing the progress of their children in school or the niceties of their vacation trip or visit to a place of interest. And, if all else fails, there is always work and shoptalk!
BINDU SRIDHAR
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