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Believe in yourself, build your confidence
It is a Monday morning and Ajit just got a dressing down from his boss for his error in the previous week’s report. But Ajit is unperturbed and walks out of the cabin with a smile on his face. Ajit’s reaction might surprise most people. He is nonchalant in the face of criticism because of his strong sense of self-esteem.
So how much self-esteem do you really have? The best way to measure it is to assess your reaction to your own mistakes. If you commit a mistake, do you withdraw into a shell, holding yourself guilty or more importantly blame others for the mistake and wallow in self-pity? Then it is time to review your self-esteem. No doubt you will have to feel responsible for making a mistake but not to a point where you start hating yourself. Self-esteem helps you to learn from mistakes. It gives you the confidence to correct yourself and not repeat the mistake again.
The level of self-esteem you possess, to a large extent determines your decisions, relationships and attitude towards life.
It also influences your efficiency, the confidence you exude and your ability to get things done. It is an important ingredient if you have to succeed in life.
Self-esteem is important if you have to succeed in your career as it determines the goals you set for yourself, the willingness to take initiatives and face challenges. Unfortunately, self-esteem cannot be gained in a day nor can it be learnt from books, it has to come from within you.
The first step towards this is to do a serious self-analysis and identify your flaws. Once you do this, take your time to study how you can turn your flaws into benefits.
For instance, if you are too serious most of the time, it could be an indication of how involved you are in everything you do and your willingness to work steadfastly to finish your tasks.
The second step is whenever you make a mistake, avoid being harsh on yourself or get into a self-pity mode. Instead, think of what you can learn from your mistake and how best you can avoid repeating it. A negative attitude will affect your self-esteem drastically.
The next step is to avoid comparing yourself with others; this will only bring down your self-esteem. Comparisons with others can make you feel inadequate. Set high goals and a benchmark to achieve you can change yourself. You could probably become an inspiration for others in the process.
If you have to validate yourself do not depend on the praise or approval of others for it, instead learn to praise and congratulate yourself for achievements. Do not set standards for yourself based on the praise or approval of others around you.
One way to boost your self-esteem is to set high targets for yourself. Aim for the best and work towards it, achieving these targets will definitely increase your self-esteem. Having goals in life will give you a sense of purpose, urge you to take risks, seek out opportunities and improve your self-image and most importantly make your life meaningful. To achieve your goals both professional and personal, you need to train yourself in effective communication, listening, interpersonal skills, and teamwork and leadership skills.
Self-esteem is not built in a day it has to evolve. Start believing in yourself, build your confidence to achieve the high standards you set and get the right attitude to face any failures and triumph against all odds. Remember if you have a high degree of self-esteem, others will respect and value you for it.
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