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Zeroing in on Mr. Right
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GUYS SHOWING off their bulging biceps, big sideburns and carrying a haughty look are out. The ones who are cool, charming, modest, warm and sociable are in. At least Kochi girls say so and prefer to relate more with the second type.
`Guys trying to draw attention is in itself very unattractive. Their attractiveness lies not so much in their appearance as in the way they carry themselves and behave. For being attractive, a guy should have a characteristic style, different from others,' says Neha, a Teresian. `Among looks, compatibility and character, I give priority to compatibility since that counts a lot. Character too is very important and then only comes looks,' she says.
A chivalrous guy who is tall, dark and handsome (yes, the good old TDH) stands tall in his social circle. Not many of them may be able to emulate Mel Gibson who in the movie, `What Women Want', lures women using his `sixth sense'. (Having met with a freak accident, Gibson gets the ability to read women's minds and do things that please women.) Yet, nothing prevents a guy who is approachable, reliable and listens patiently to what a girl says, from stealing the hearts of girls.
`Men should be able to respect women as they are, whether they are self-employed or in a profession. They should be in a partnership where neither dominates the other. Both should be willing to compromise. Problems arise in a relationship when guys try to thrust their views on girls. I would any day prefer a guy who is charming, intelligent, modest, sociable, trustworthy and approachable,' says Cuckoo Sebastian. `But it's sickening to see some guys trying to put up a macho image, either by drowning a few pegs or by smoking cigars. These have nothing to do with masculinity,' Cuckoo feels.
Neha's on-screen male icons are Jackie Shroff and Sanjay Dutt, `who have very masculine traits'. `I prefer a more or less introvert guy since I'm an extrovert. Similarly, a very boyish guy or guy of the same age is no-no, since girls mature faster than guys. The guy should feel that he would be able to protect and support me, though I should not feel that I'm wholly dependent on him. I like guys who are witty, but he should make sense most of the time. Those showing off their biceps is a strict no-no,' says Neha, who will soon be in her twenties.
`Looks may count a lot at first, but not later on. Guys exhibiting their biceps put me off. I like guys who are cool when need be and serious when the situation warrants. Gentlemanly behaviour is desirable, unless the guy overdoes it,' says Reema. She'd prefer to relate to someone from her social circle, rather than to a stranger.
But then won't guys have their own preferences and much more to say about girls who have a put-on appearance, are nagging and speak only `korachu korachu Maliyalam'. Yes, put shortly, it's the slim, long-haired, down-to-earth, `naadan', yet sophisticated girls whom Kochi guys would prefer.
By John L. Paul
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