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So, what's in a handshake?
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A handshake is the first step in communication, which needs no explanation and is never misunderstood.
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RIGHT NOW you are thinking, "What's the big deal? A handshake is a handshake, isn't it''? You are partly correct, because the word `handshake' is just that — a `handshake'.
But the act `handshake', now, that's an entirely different thing. It is everything! It's your first physical contact with someone in the business and social arena. We notice someone non-verbally by his or her touch.
It is the initial communication that needs no explanation and one that is never misunderstood.
So what kind of handshakes have we experienced? And what did we conclude out of it?
The wet handshake: Clammy and damp, the person is nervous and insecure.
The bone crusher handshake: Your hand is put in a clamp. Extra Ouch! Ouch! If you are wearing a ring. Indicates clumsiness in dealing with people. May be this person is under the wrong impression that this gives the image of someone in control.
The forefingers handshake: Especially given by women. It shows that he/she doesn't know how to use the handshake to greet somebody. Someone who is uncomfortable and conveys the distinct message "I am not the decision maker''.
The sponge handshake: The person shows how bored he is to meet you and have to give you his hand. May also give the impression of being `wishy-washy'.
The plank handshake: Hands are held out stiff as a board, the thumb sticking up. Definitely has no clue. Socially inept, insecure and uncomfortable.
The glove handshake: If you are wearing gloves, please remove them before you shake hands, unless you are a king or a queen. Royal protocol allows them (royalty) to keep them on while shaking hands with others. Otherwise you give the impression of being superior and socially naive.
The firm and professional handshake: Firm and strong — represents someone who is socially savvy, takes charge and makes decisions. It shows security and confidence while dealing with people.
The double handshake: Is given to console someone in grief and shows emotional support.
So the next time you shake hands, make sure that your hand is not giving out messages you have no intention of giving.
Tip of the day — avoid wearing heavy rings on your right hand and please, avoid fragrances on your hands, by all means. There is nothing more annoying than to get the whiff of someone else's cologne or perfume every time you raise your drink to your lips!
(The writer is the Director, ProEt Centre for International Protocol and Etiquette E-mail: proetique@yahoo.co.in)
CHITRA S. DANGER
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