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`Is he `SO & SO'?'

Some tips to remember and recall people's names and save embarrassing moments for oneself.

SO, YOU say? A person's name is everything for him or her. It is who we are, an extension of our ego, our identity. Our names being mispronounced, we can deal with quite cheerfully but when others forget the name outright, that is when we feel a small sense of rejection - "I was not important enough, obviously."

Countless number of hours were spent by your parents to come up with the perfect name for you. Finally, a unique name is selected for the unique human. After all that time and energy spent, it is understandable, the indignity a forgotten name can cause.

Both in the social or business arena, there is nothing more embarrassing than forgetting names while introducing. Or, how about the time when you had to introduce this person with whom you have been having cosy chats and your mind went blank at the crucial juncture.

Now this one takes the cake - realising you have been calling someone by the wrong name the whole time. Yes, these episodes have happened to all of us at some point or the other, in our adult life.

So, how do we deal with this memory loss?

There are some very simple techniques that you can learn to make you good at remembering names. Try them. You can avoid many awkward moments.

First tell yourself "I am going to remember names". The mind has an amazing capability to actually cooperate with you.

Pay attention while being introduced.

You have just been introduced to Suzy. Don't just say hello and stop. Continue it with the name, "Hello, Suzy".

While saying that, look very attentively at the other person's face and try to register some important facial feature and record in memory.

Try using the name again and again during conversation Another trick is association. Does it rhyme with something? Does someone you know have a similar or same name?

Don't hesitate to ask for the correct spelling of the name. Take your time, and spell it out slowly and deliberately.

Another trick is to visualise the spelling.

Try one of these tips and you will amaze yourself and impress the other person. In spite of all this, if you still have selective memory loss, honesty is the best policy!

CHITRA DANGER

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