Opinion - Letters to the Editor

Woman and romance

The article “Romance and the Indian woman” (Open Page, March 16) has raised a valid issue. The lack of emotional companionship between couples is threatening marital stability in many homes, especially in the metros. But should men take all the blame for the ennui which creeps into relationships over time? True, better education and jobs have empowered women. At the same time, career-centric women find it difficult to spend quality time with their spouses. It is the unbridled materialism unleashed by globalisation that is partly responsible for the sorry state of affairs. Besides, self-abnegation is ingrained in the DNA of Indian parents for whom securing the lives of their children is more important.

V.N. Mukundarajan,

Thiruvananthapuram

The pervading sentiment in the article seems to be to shift the onus of contempt in the relationship bred out of familiarity on the husband. It is time women looked beyond their stereotype roles. Men need romance and excitement in marriage as much as women do. To be a truly empowered woman would also mean accepting responsibility for the state of the relationship, and to think out of the box to get the zing back into marriage. Packing the bags and moving out may not serve the purpose, especially when the solution lies at home.

Savitha C. Muppala,

Kochi

The article truly reflects the state of mind among women who are frustrated with the way their husbands treat them. As it rightly points out, the wife is treated as part of the household furniture after romance dies down within the first few years of marriage. The problem is more pronounced in marriages where both husband and wife are employed.

J.P. Reddy,

Nalgonda

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